IF YOU ARE NOT READY TO GROOM HER, DON'T MARRY HER

Every female is like a raw material waiting to be explored, extracted, refined and processed into finished products. 

Although every woman/lady falls into this category, they however differ in the stages in which they are. Some are in the unexplored stage, some in the extracted stage, some in the refining stage and some are already a finished product(very very few falls in this category). 

As man when you meet a woman/lady and you like her, try to find out what stage she's in. The understandingK of the stage she's in will help you to make the right moves on the kind of relationship to  make with her. 

Proposing to a woman/lady who's in the unrefined stages(unexplored or extracted) is the greatest mistake you can make as man.

 

A woman who has not gotten her Identity, who hasn't gotten purpose clarity or discover her gifts and ability is dangerous to herself first and to whoever befriends her. So the first thing to do if you're interested in such is to help explore them and get them extracted. Help them get clarity first, because if you marry her with her confused personality, you will never reach your desired height as and when due.  

 

After you've gotten the right understanding of the stage she's in, you need to be ready to groom her.

Most men want finished products, they want to invest nothing in their woman and they want her to be like the most talked about celebrity in a particular area. They want her to know all and be all with little or no investment. Whatever you put into your woman is what she gives back to you in case you don't know.

Truth be told, every great woman out there is a product of one man's grooming, you might need to find out.

Excuse me sir, if you're not well GROOMED, you're not qualified to be a BRIDEGROOM. 

You think that the word BRIDEGROOM is just given for fun? Christ who was called the BRIDEGROOM gave his life for his bride(the church) in the process of grooming her.

Little mistake you flare up or break the relationship, MR BRIDEGROOM who did you resemble? Christ was patient and is still patient with his bride to see her grow into what he desired her to be.             There is no point going into a relationship with her or proposing to her when you're not ready to groom her. 

Yoruba people says Alawoku lobirin, apologies to the females for saying this but here is my point no woman is completely refined and that is the truth. Where her father has stopped (that is if her father has started anything at all) you as the husband and second father will continue from there.

Many home has scattered because many men fail to incorporate in them what I called the PATIENCE OF A BRIDEGROOM. 

This is one major virtue that characterized a BRIDEGROOM and separate Men from Boys. Your patience level if it can be measured should be at least 98% as a man(leaving the remaining 2% to show your humanity) if your marriage will be successful. You need to be able to put up with the woman knowing fully well that you're her GROOM.

But come to think of it, what if you who is expected to groom her, is not even groomed? the result will be Catastrophic. 

To be continued...